Author: Mark Farley

Who’s in Control?

   November 30, 2023 0 Likes 56 Views
 Who’s in control?.. 


The need for control is part of our human nature. 


The extremes we take it to and the illusions that we and others feel we have are usually where we have our struggles. 


For instance, Miss Tami, Miss Kai and our 2 cats allow me to think I am in control in our home. 


Luckily for me, I have seen through this illusion and get to enjoy my quiet corner of the living room, or as I call it my “command center”! 


Another example I love to share is to challenge folks to try and herd cats! 


How’s that control working out for you?!? 


The fact I have learned the hard way over the years is that there are only 3 things I am in absolute control of; my attitude, my thoughts, and my behavior. 


All of the rest are driven by people, places, and things. 


The good news is that when I learned that I could turn it over to God, I no longer needed to allow the chaos of people, places, and things to affect my thoughts and behaviors… 


Check your experience… 


“All of us felt at times that we were regaining control, but such intervals — usually brief — were inevitably followed by still less control, which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization.” Big Book pg 30 


Lord, let us give up the need to control things outside of our attitudes, thoughts, and behaviors, AMEN. 


“For you are a slave to whatever controls you.” 2 Peter 2:19 


Have a blessed day y’all! 


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Asking Motives

   November 29, 2023 0 Likes 71 Views
It’s all in how you ask… 


Have you ever asked or prayed for something only to either not get it or get something you were not expecting? 


For years I have been asking and praying for weight loss, six pack abs, and a Tim Berry physique but y’all know that ain’t happening! 


I am sure many folks ask to win the lottery, but we all know how that goes! 


The thing I have learned in my sobriety and in my walk with Jesus is that it is OK to ask for things….BUT…. make sure we are asking with an open mind, willing heart, and correct motives. 


It seems all these years I have asked for weight loss while not being completely willing to do the required work on my part with diet and exercise. 


When I do ask in prayer with the right motives, the right things happen. 


While I don’t have six pack abs and a Tim Berry Physique at the moment, I have lost 127 pounds over the past 4 years. 


So, for me, the lesson is to look at my motives before asking in prayer to make sure they are backed by willingness and effort on my part. 


When I do this, things tend to work out pretty well. 

How’s this working out for you in your asking and prayer life?.. 


Check your experience… 


“Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives.” Big Book pg 86 


 Lord let us ask You for anything with an open mind, willing heart and motives not based on self-will, AMEN. 


“You do not get things because you do not ask for them. Or if you do ask, you do not receive because your reasons for asking are wrong. You want these things only to please yourselves.” James 4: 3-4 


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


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Fear Source

   November 28, 2023 0 Likes 76 Views
 So where does fear come from?.. 
Fear is one of those 4 letter words that cause discomfort and pain. 


It’s interesting to me to see the power this word has over our lives. 


Now perhaps it’s different for you, but my experience has shown me that when this 4 letter word enters into my thoughts, if left unchecked and unchallenged, it can cause all sorts of troubles for me and those around me. 


Over the years I have learned that the best way for me to deal with fear is to track it to its source. 


More often than not that source is me and my attitudes, perceptions, and insecurities. 


When I am able to see that the fear is not real but based on my own making, then I am able to give the fear to God in exchange for His grace, guidance, and love. 


How are you handling your fears?.. 


Check your experience… 


“We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would have us be.” Big Book pg 68 


Lord, let us give you our fears in exchange for your guidance, grace, and love, AMEN. 


“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7 


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


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Can’t Keep It Unless…

   November 27, 2023 0 Likes 73 Views
 We can’t keep it unless we give it away…. 


 It is a wonderful feeling to be able to help another person with no expectation of a gain or a return.


Perhaps you have experienced this spiritual principle enough to know the powerful blessing it brings to you and those you help.


Just being able to help another is humbling for me, 
for there was a season for me over 32 years ago when I had nothing to give and not much hope. 

Thank goodness for the Salvation Army who loved me until I could learn to love myself again.  


Walking with Jesus and and staying  active in 12 Step  has blessed my life far better than I could have ever imagined with Miss Tami, Miss Kai, and all the gifts of friends, family, ministry, and service work I have in my life today. 

I know from experience that we cannot keep it unless we give it away.  


…check your experience…   


“Helping others is the foundation stone” Big Book pg 97  
 
Lord, thank you for the bounty of blessings and the ability to help others not as blessed as we are right now, AMEN. 


“Because you have these blessings, do your best to add these things to your lives: to your faith, add goodness; and to your goodness, add knowledge; and to your knowledge, add self-control; and to your self-control, add patience; and to your patience, add service for God; and to your service for God, add kindness for your brothers and sisters in Christ; and to this kindness, add love.”  2 Peter 1: 5-7  


Have a blessed day Y’all! 

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Spiritual Google

   November 26, 2023 0 Likes 85 Views
 A different way to “Google”


Google has made life a lot easier for me! 


It seems whatever I need to know; from directions to anywhere to what is the name of the actress that played Lorelai on Gilmore Girls, Google has it for me in a split second! 


How convenient and time saving it is! 


If only I could get answers to my moral and self-will challenges along with my spiritual directions from Google. 


While Google will attempt to answer our life questions and offer spiritual direction, it can’t see our hearts or know our soul like the Holy Spirit does. 


Thank goodness we can find those answers WHEN we become willing to ask, look, and receive. 


How is this working out for you? 


Are you turning to your internal Google in the form of the Holy Spirit when times are confusing or uncomfortable?… 


Check your experience… 


“Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. Big Book pg 86 


Lord, let us ask You for guidance and direction with open minds and hearts, AMEN. 


“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waiver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.” James 1: 5-6 


Have a blessed day Y’all!! 


Join me in looking at the things we face daily with passages from both the Big Book and Bible! 


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Judging By the Book’s Cover?

   November 25, 2023 0 Likes 88 Views
Don’t judge a book by its cover…


Looks can be deceiving, especially when we allow our judgment to be based solely on what we initially see. 


Perhaps it’s different for you, but I have shared before how my magic magnifying mind likes to trick me into trusting the ideas it generates on its own just for me. 


It pays to learn more of the story before we pass judgments. 


Years ago when I was living, recovering, and working at the Salvation Army in Sacramento, we had this very small man named Joe who also lived there. 


Because of a stroke he suffered, he walked funny and had a hard time speaking so it was easy to pass him by as another needy and hopeless cause. 


However, I got to know Joe. 


As our friendship grew, I learned that he was a powerlifter in the gym and before he had a stroke in his mid 20’s, he was a college graduate with a promising career in engineering. 


Different choices he made around drugs and alcohol led to difficult twists, and turns in his life, like many of us encountered before we wound up at the Salvation Army for help. 


Joe helped teach me and others to weight lift and use the gym safely. 


He was very encouraging to me to get my college education and pursue God’s calling on my life. 


I am glad I took the time to get to know Joe before he went home to the Lord. 


His encouragement and influence helped me a lot during that season of my life. 

 Are there any “Joe’s” in your life where you don’t know their story?..


Check your experience….


“We let God be the final judge.” Big Book pg. 70 


Lord open the eyes of our hearts so the we can see those You send to help us, AMEN. 


“Do not judge according to appearance” John 7:24 


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


What if you had a person who coached and mentored you in building a better life? 


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Greed Friday?!?

   November 24, 2023 0 Likes 72 Views
GREED Friday?…..Black Friday… 


COME EARLY and BUY THIS NOW, SAVE NOW, THE FIRST SHOPPERS GET THE DEAL! 


I saw this a few years ago… A Car Dealer offering $2000 off to the first few customers that show up tomorrow! 


WOW! 


 I know it’s great to save money and get deals but why are we allowing this need to override our time with family, friends and cloud the reason for the season?.. 


Check your experience… 


“Is it not evident to all the rest of the players that these are the things he wants?” Big Book pg 61 


Lord, let us know in our hearts that stuff comes and goes, but our relationship with You lasts forever, AMEN 


 “Then he said to them, watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.” Luke 12:15 


Have a blessed day y’all! 


Join me in looking at the things we face daily with passages from both the Big Book and Bible! 


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Have a Blessed Thanksgiving

   November 23, 2023 0 Likes 85 Views
There are many things that I am grateful for. 


Too many to list here, but most of all I am grateful for my salvation, sobriety, and serenity. 


I am thankful for my family, friends, and ministry. 


It’s a spiritual principle that I try to live daily… 


We cannot keep it unless we give it away…. 


 “We thank God from the bottom of our heart” Big Book pg. 75 


Thank you Lord for my family, my friends, and the bounty of blessings You allow them to bring in my life AMEN. 


 “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” Philippians 4:11-12 


Happy Thanksgiving! 


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


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Watch Your Tongue!

   November 22, 2023 0 Likes 107 Views
Watch your tongue… 

It’s that time of year when we gather together with family, friends, and others to fellowship, celebrate, and spend time with others that we may not see that often.  


Hopefully these times are full of fun, love, and create more warm memories. 


This can also be a time where our petty differences, resentments, and unchecked emotions can try to take the stage in front of the captive audience gathered. 


Please take this as a suggestion and guard your words!  

Our self-will can override our spiritual connection during times of stress and anxiety leading to all sorts of words and actions that we later regret. 


Hopefully you can direct those nasty words to stay inside your head and not come rolling off your tongue. 

Remember the Holy Spirit lives within you and can give you grace, peace, and comfort during these times IF you let Him…


Check your experience… 


“Patience, tolerance, understanding and love are the watchwords.” Big Book pg 118   


Lord, let our words be driven from love and kindness and not from motives of hurt and pain, AMEN.  


“So also the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is always ready to pour out its deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our heavenly Father, and sometimes it breaks out into curses against men…” James 3:5-9  


Have a blessed day y’all!  


Join us in prayer and with your financial support as we tackle the challenge of helping and mentoring young adults aging out of the Foster Care System.

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Take Time to Listen

   November 20, 2023 0 Likes 102 Views
Take time to listen before waiting to speak… 


Have you ever caught yourself on “auto-pilot” in a conversation? 


For me, it usually happens during a familiar conversation or recurring situation. 


My mind tells me the answer before the other person even asks or finishes! 


Now maybe it’s different for you, but I catch myself going into auto- pilot mode when I start deciding what must be done even before I have really listened and or HEARD what the other person is trying to say. 


OK, so this is part of standard fare for raising kids under 5 when it comes to junk food and unsafe toys, we DO know the answers before they form the question, 


but this type of listening hurts us in all other aspects of our lives. 


Think about it. 


We like to be listened to, heard, and feel that we have been understood. 


 It’s a spiritual principle that we need to treat others in the same way that we wish to be treated. 


So maybe this is the 3rd time Aunt Mabel has told you the story about her trip to the grocery with the wrong coupons. 


Perhaps by actively listening to her and building conversation around her story, she may finally feel heard and stop telling you the same story. 

 How do you listen? 


 Does the solution noise in your head drown out what the other person is trying to say? … 


Check your own experience and…


Take time to listen instead of waiting to speak. 


“We never gave the spiritual side of life a fair hearing.” Big Book pg 50 


Lord, let us listen with our hearts and hear with You Holy Spirit that resides in us all, AMEN. 


 “To answer before listening– that is folly and shame. Proverbs 18:13 


Have a blessed day Y’all!! 


What if you had a person who coached and mentored you in building a better life? 


Inspired 365 Life Coaching with Mark Farley!! 


https://www.faiththroughworksfellowship.org/inspired-365-life-coaching 


Want a one-on-one coach to get you out of where you are? 


 Email today and let’s chat to see if we can make up a plan for you to get you to where you want to be! 


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