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31 Years Ago

31 years ago I was a broken man, hopelessly alcoholic and addicted to methamphetamine. In jail.. again… for my 10th DUI I was to be sent to prison. I was 30 years old and had estranged everyone from me in my life.


As I stared into the piece of tin that serves as a jailhouse mirror, I suddenly realized that I no longer knew this person staring back at me. I got on my knees and said the only prayer I could at the time, “God help me.” 


Things began to change almost immediately. 


My cellmate kept inviting me to the AA meetings and until that day I never wanted to attend. The H & I sponsored AA meeting started with a very short man who was not in jail jumping up on a table and shouting, “If you guys keep on doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you are getting!” It was the shortest AA meeting I have ever attended because that was all I heard. He offered a Big Book to those of us “man enough to ask”, so I asked. I began reading the AA Big Book and attending the meetings. 


After a few weeks, I went for my prison sentencing, but my Public Defender did not show up. 2 weeks later I went again to be sentenced and the Prosecutor did not show up. 


It would be 6 more weeks in jail before I would be sentenced to prison. 


I stayed active in AA and in the Christian fellowship Overcomers Outreach. My heart began to change. I finally owned my alcoholism; took responsibility for the wreckage it had caused me and others and became willing to accept the consequences of the prison time I had coming. 


When I finally went to court to be sentenced, there was a different judge on the bench, and he shared a letter that was written on my behalf by an anonymous member of AA telling him I was changing and asking him to give me a chance at a rehab program instead of prison. The judge stopped the sentencing and asked me if I would like to spend 6 months at the Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center in Sacramento. 


I knew that God had heard my cry for help and that I needed to keep following Him! 


I willingly went to the Salvation Army. They loved me until I could learn to love myself. I threw myself into learning about God and became active in AA and in serving the homeless and addicted which has become my life mission. I entered their Adjutant Program and earned my Pastoral certificate. I was awarded a scholarship to go back to college and got my Human Services as well as my CADC counseling certificates for drugs and alcohol. I began running the Phase 1 recovery programs for Salvation Army ARC and helped to manage the homeless shelter. 


Through my quest for lasting sobriety in AA, I met my beautiful angel Tami, who allowed this strange man with a ponytail who worked at the homeless shelter and rode a bicycle to fall in love with her and eventually marry her. 3 Years into our marriage, God loaned us His angel Kai to raise as our daughter! 


For the past 31 years I have lived one day at a time looking to serve and help.


5 years ago I began to look at the damage that my excess weight was causing me and those who relied on me. I found help and learned that sugar was my new addiction along with my cravings for all the bad carbs in the junk food I surrounded myself with. 


I met Bitten Jonsson who taught me about sugar and carb addiction. I have applied the 12 Steps from AA into my food addiction and now, 5 years later, not only have I lost over 120 pounds, but also have gained my life back and am the founder of a 12 Step Sugar and Carb addiction group called Sugar and Carb Addicts Anonymous. www.SCAA.club


God saved me from alcoholism and addiction and taught me how to be free through serving others. 


 I believe in and truly try to live what the Bible promises that it is through giving to others that we receive. 


God has given me more than I ever deserved. The Big Book has taught me that Faith without works is dead. The least I can do is to try daily to pay Him back through serving others. 


Because of AA and God, today I am a husband, a father, a son, a brother, a family member, and a friend to many. I have a home, a job, a ministry, and a founding partner of a nonprofit that helps others. AA taught me to be of humble service to others. From this suggestion I have become an ordained Pastor and a college graduate with an MBA in Business and Marketing. 

Thank you, Jesus, for saving me! 


Thank God for the Salvation Army, SCAA, and Alcoholics Anonymous! 

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Fear NOT

He dropped his blanket….. 


In the classic “Charlie Brown Christmas” cartoon / movie Linus comes on stage to recite the verses in Luke about the birth of Jesus. 


He does something VERY OUT OF CHARACTER for him… 


HE DROPS HIS BLANKET!!! (Google it!) 


As he states the words “Fear Not”, he lets his blanket drop to the floor. 


This is a great example of having a faith so big that it allows you to drop your security blanket and trust in the Lord. 


This is my question for us all today. 


What items, habits, or ideas that we hold as a security blanket to protect us from the world are we willing to drop in order to grow a stronger faith in Jesus? 


Is it our pride, fear, hatred, closed minded ideas or maybe even our concrete opinions of people, places and things?.. 


Check your experience… 


“When many hundreds of people are able to say that the consciousness of the Presence of God is today the most important fact of their lives, they present a powerful reason why one should have faith.” Big Book pg. 51 


Lord, let us trade in the things we hold as security blankets for the everlasting faith in You, AMEN. 


“The angel reassured them. “Fear Not” he said. “I bring you good news that will bring great joy to all people.” Luke 2:10 


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


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Mind Shift

Change your mind… 


Have you ever noticed how much our minds tend to magnify the things that are fear driven? 


It’s human nature for this to happen but it’s sad to see so many of us get caught up in the delusions that are created in our minds as we hold onto these thoughts and let them grow in size and strength. 

Especially this time of year when it seems like we need to spend money, we don’t have to buy gifts for people who really don’t need them! 


There is no need to become a prisoner of our fears. 


We can break free of fear’s hold on us by simply changing our minds. 


Try it next time you find yourself being held hostage by fear. 


Ask the Holy Spirit (prayer) to remove the fear and replace it with the thought of helping someone else. 


Give it a try! 


Y
ou can do it and as always……


Check your experience! … 


“At once, we commence to outgrow fear.” Big Book pg. 68 


Lord let us use our faith to replace the fear that tries to “divert our minds, AMEN. 


 “…be made new in the attitude of your minds;” Ephesians 4:23 


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


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Faith Over Fear

Fear or Faith…

How do you know if it’s fear or faith that drives your thoughts and actions! 


Maybe it’s different for you but my experience has taught me that when I am in fear, my thoughts are based on self and my behaviors and actions are centered on avoiding, hiding, ignoring, blaming and or minimizing. 


When I am in faith, my thoughts are based on helping or serving others and my actions and behaviors are centered on service, helping, supporting, listening, and being transparent. 


When I am in faith, I know the Lord is with me and I don’t need to analyze and overthink may part, I just need to be and do. 


 Are you in fear or faith?.. 


Check your experience…


“In this book you read again and again that faith did for us what we could not do for ourselves.” Big Book pg 70 


Lord, let our faith quiet our fears because we know You are with us no matter what, AMEN. 


“May he give you the power to accomplish all the good things your faith prompts you to do.” 2 Thessalonians 1:11 


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Best Gift EVER

The best gift ever… 


Almost everyone has an example of the best present they have ever received. 


Usually, folks associate this pleasant thought with a Christmas present, a significant life change, or an important event like a marriage or the birth of a child. 


Just like most of the things I share here, it depends on your experience, I totally agree and understand that. I have 4 significant things in my life that I consider as the best… 


Miss Tami, Miss Kai, and my blessed sobriety are 3,


but they are all predicated by my relationship with Jesus. 


I am far from perfect and do not deserve any of these gifts, but through my constant work on a daily relationship with Jesus, …


I get to enjoy not only Miss Tami, Miss Kai, and my sobriety, but also so many other things that make this life worthwhile. 


So, what is your best present ever?… 


Check your experience… 


“See to it that your relationship with Him is right, and great events will come to pass for you and countless others. This is the Great Fact for us. Abandon yourself to God as you understand God.” Big Book pg. 164 


Lord, let us investigate our hearts and see how Your love and grace has delivered us a life far beyond what we deserve, AMEN. 


“Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” 1 Peter 3:15 


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Fight the Good Fight

Fighting the good fight… 

We look forward to watching Christmas movies in our home. 

We each have our favorites but there is a central theme or idea that most of the movies we enjoy share. 

It seems that the movies we enjoy most have characters that face a challenge that they need to overcome. 

The challenge is within themselves and their ability to have faith and stop relying on either a past experience or a close-minded behavior.

The point is, each character must fight a good fight of faith in order to break free of the bondage of fear and self-will that is holding them back. 

How is your battle with fear and self-bondage going?.. 

Check your experience… 

 “In this book you read again and again that faith did for us what we could not do for ourselves.” Big Book pg 70 

Lord, let us open our hearts to pursue the love and freedom we gain when we fight the good fight and grow our faith in You, AMEN. 

“Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness. Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called” 1 Timothy 6:11-12 

Have a blessed day Y’all! 

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Serving Others Matters

Are you serving or being served?.. 

It’s easy to sit and be served. 

We experience this at restaurants, hair salons, doctor visits and other things where we are the customer.

We gain from receiving these services. 

It’s not so easy to serve others. 

Even when we are passionate about what we do, there are those few people or certain situations that try our patience and make our skin crawl.

Nevertheless, we gain from performing these types of services.

What about serving others for no gain? 

This is where we are asked to help another person who we may or may not even see but will benefit from our labor and service. 

It’s a thankless task with no direct reward for us… or so it seems! 

Serving others helps yourself, when your motive is selfless and your efforts are to be of service with no personal gain….

Check your experience… 

“Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.” Big Book pg 77 

Lord, let us serve others with the motive of helping and not gaining, AMEN. 

“The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed.” Proverbs 11:25 

Have a blessed day Y’all! 

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True Peace

The Advent of Peace… 


Being in the Christmas spirit and all that comes with this season, we see all types of Christmas sweaters, socks, hats, and if you are not living in Arizona, scarves and gloves. 


These garments are important in protecting us from the winter weather elements. 


They give us peace of mind and comfort as we go about our day. 

How do we cover and protect our hearts and souls during this hectic season? 


While there is no physical garment we can put on our heart, we can certainly take the Spiritual tool of God’s Peace to cover our hearts and quiet our worldly minds. 

Are you covering your heart, mind, and soul in peace?.. 


 Check your experience… 


“As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed peace of mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully, as we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter.” Big Book pg. 63 


Lord let us cover ourselves with Your Peace as we celebrate the Christmas season and go about our day, AMEN. 


“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:7 


Have a blessed day Y’all!! 


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