Author: Mark Farley

Watch Your Tongue!

   November 23, 2022 0 Likes 244 Views
Watch your tongue… 

It’s that time of year when we gather together with family, friends, and others to fellowship, celebrate, and spend time with others that we may not see that often.  


Hopefully these times are full of fun, love, and create more warm memories. 


This can also be a time where our petty differences, resentments, and unchecked emotions can try to take the stage in front of the captive audience gathered. 


Please take this as a suggestion and guard your words!  

Our self-will can override our spiritual connection during times of stress and anxiety leading to all sorts of words and actions that we later regret. 


Hopefully you can direct those nasty words to stay inside your head and not come rolling off your tongue. 

Remember the Holy Spirit lives within you and can give you grace, peace, and comfort during these times IF you let Him…


Check your experience… 


“Patience, tolerance, understanding and love are the watchwords.” Big Book pg 118   


Lord, let our words be driven from love and kindness and not from motives of hurt and pain, AMEN.  


“So also the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is always ready to pour out its deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our heavenly Father, and sometimes it breaks out into curses against men…” James 3:5-9  


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We Harvest What We Plant

   November 22, 2022 0 Likes 301 Views
Reaping and sowing…. 

It’s a fact of life, based on a solid spiritual principle that we GET what we GIVE. 


I was grateful to learn this fact in the rooms of AA listening to others share. 


I was also blessed to experience this as I walk with Jesus daily. 


Now perhaps it’s a bit different for you,..

but I have learned  from my own experiences, as well as from helping others in their walk that..


we only GET OUT of a person, place, things, or situation, what we are WILLING TO GIVE to it. 


Negativity breeds negativity, and misery does love company. 

However, supply some positive attitude, support, encouragement, and good effort and you will be amazed at what you get in return!.. 


Check your experience…


“Do not think of what you will get out of the occasion. Think of what you can bring to it.” Big Book pg 102 


Lord, let us give our best to others and be a source of hope, grace, and love, just like You are for us, AMEN.  


“Do not be deceived.  A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.” Galatians 6:7-8   


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


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Humility not Humiliation

   November 21, 2022 0 Likes 319 Views
Humility is way different than humiliation…. 


Humility is a good virtue that allows us to acknowledge others and respect their dignity, talents, and opinions. 


Humility is not weakness; it’s a spirit of self-examination that through seeking and doing God’s will prevents us from becoming selfish and arrogant. 


Humiliation is a painful emotion that we feel when we’ve been shamed. 


It’s a negative response that usually comes as a consequence of our own selfish actions. 


I used to confuse the 2 words, I think a lot of corporate America still does. 


I have learned that a humble person is a powerful person who has a firm relationship with God, self, and others. 


A humiliated person tends to be isolated and suffer from their own actions based on self-centered fears, greed, and pride.


How do you see yourself?..
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Check your experience… 


“Belief in the power of God, plus enough willingness, honesty and humility to establish and maintain the new order of things, were the essential requirements.” Big Book pg 13 


Lord, let us humble ourselves to be strengthened and fortified by our Word, grace, and promises. AMEN. 


“If you are wise and understand God’s ways, prove it by living an honorable life, doing good works with the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you are bitterly jealous and there is selfish ambition in your heart, For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.” James 3: 13-16 


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Taking Time to Listen

   November 20, 2022 0 Likes 257 Views
Take time to listen before waiting to speak… 


Have you ever caught yourself on “auto-pilot” in a conversation? 


For me, it usually happens during a familiar conversation or recurring situation. 


My mind tells me the answer before the other person even asks or finishes! 


Now maybe it’s different for you, but I catch myself going into auto- pilot mode when I start deciding what must be done even before I have really listened and or HEARD what the other person is trying to say. 


OK, so this is part of standard fare for raising kids under 5 when it comes to junk food and unsafe toys, we DO know the answers before they form the question, 


but this type of listening hurts us in all other aspects of our lives. 


Think about it. 


We like to be listened to, heard, and feel that we have been understood. 


 It’s a spiritual principle that we need to treat others in the same way that we wish to be treated. 


So maybe this is the 3rd time Aunt Mabel has told you the story about her trip to the grocery with the wrong coupons. 


Perhaps by actively listening to her and building conversation around her story, she may finally feel heard and stop telling you the same story. 

 How do you listen? 


 Does the solution noise in your head drown out what the other person is trying to say? … 


Check your own experience and…


Take time to listen instead of waiting to speak. 


“We never gave the spiritual side of life a fair hearing.” Big Book pg 50 


Lord, let us listen with our hearts and hear with You Holy Spirit that resides in us all, AMEN. 


 “To answer before listening– that is folly and shame. Proverbs 18:13 


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Looking to Help

   November 19, 2022 0 Likes 249 Views
Looking away or looking to help….. 


Sometimes when we see uncomfortable or unpleasant things, we divert our eyes away so our mind won’t focus and our hearts won’t feel the situation. 


I used to do this every time I walked by my teenager’s room. 


I am sure it’s a well-organized myriad of clothing, books, and life pertinent items to her, but it looked like remnants of a hurricane to her mother and me. 


It’s easier to just look away and move on. 


What about those times when we are at work or out and about with a group of friends and we see someone noticeably upset or hurting. 


Hopefully it’s our natural reaction to seek to learn the situation, offer comfort, and help if possible. 


Now what about when we see that out of place person trying to deal with something that is obviously unfamiliar for them? 


I know that it’s easier to look away and pretend we don’t see that older person in the store trying to figure out how to lift that case of water. 


Or it’s “better to ignore” the dirty looking person on the street with the shopping cart full of weird stuff. 


I am not suggesting we stop and try to change their whole life, but what about looking them in the eye and saying hello? 


What would Jesus do? 


 Check your experience…


“Helping others is the foundation stone of our recovery.” Big Book pg. 97


Lord, let us open the eyes of our heart to see where You would have us offer compassion and help, AMEN. 


“Seeing the people, He felt compassion for them, because they were distressed and dispirited like sheep without a shepherd. Then He said to His disciples, “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” Philippians 2:4


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Examining Our Motives

   November 18, 2022 0 Likes 281 Views
Motives and efforts…. 


Ever heard the saying you get OUT of it what you PUT IN to it? 


 Great examples of this are folks that run their first Triathlons, lose massive amounts or weight, win their first bodybuilding contest, or achieve some other life altering change for the good. 

The secret to success in each of these examples is that while they were training and working to achieve their goal, they constantly made sure their efforts matched their motives daily. 

We can use this “secret” in our everyday lives for ordinary things as well. 


This is a biblical principle that never changes! 


From being a better person, to overcoming an uncomfortable situation, if we measure our motives and match them to our efforts we will see change.. 


How well are your efforts matching your motives?… 


Check your experience…


“Keep on the firing line of life with these motives and God will keep you unharmed.” Big Book pg 102


Lord, let us provide the efforts needed along with the right motives to bring healthy changes into our lives and strengthen our walk with you, AMEN. 


“People may be pure in their own eyes, but the Lord examines their motives. Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed.” Proverbs 16: 2-3 


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Forgive First and Be Forgiven

   November 17, 2022 0 Likes 233 Views
Don’t turn a bad moment into a bad day...


It was in hearing and learning the St. Francis prayer in AA that I first learned that in order to be forgiven, I must first forgive others. 


Back then, and even sometimes today, it was a tall order and I had a very hard time finding the willingness to open my heart and mind to become forgiving. 


Over the years I have learned from my own experiences as well as from watching and working with others that we tend to hang on to negative feelings and experiences longer than we should and if not addressed, these feeling and experiences can take on a life of their own and begin influencing our thoughts, actions and over time behaviors over other people, places, and things. 


With Thanksgiving coming next week, all sorts of resentments, anger, hurts, and ill feelings will come rushing to the front of folk’s minds as family and friends gather together. 


Jesus forgave us for our sins and continues to forgive me daily because of His unconditional love. 

It is a spiritual principle that HE can’t forgive us until we are able to forgive others… 


Check your experience… 


“We go to him in a helpful and forgiving spirit, “Big Book pg. 77 

Lord let us open our hearts to become forgiving of others so that we can be forgiven ourselves, AMEN. 

“Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32 


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Got Traffic in Your Heart?

   November 16, 2022 0 Likes 297 Views
Navigating through traffic…..  
It seems we encounter traffic in just about everything we do these days. 


The freeways are full of commuters, the Starbucks and Dutch Bros lines are long at times, there is usually a wait time for scheduled doctor appointments. 


Most of us become aware of these patterns and we adjust our schedules to either accommodate or avoid these situations as best we can so we can continue with our day. 


What about the things that can clog our hearts at times? 


The “rush hour traffic” of fear and worry, or being taken hostage by worldly clamors of self-willed perceived wants and materialistic desires can derail a good day if we let it. 


There is a plan and a solution to avoid this clutter and traffic in our hearts. 


Turning our will and our lives over to the care of God clears this traffic of our heart and allows us to focus on the important things and enjoy peace and grace…


Check your experience… 


“But soon the sense of His presence had been blotted out by worldly clamors, mostly those within myself. And so, it has been ever since.” Big Book pgs. 12-13 


Lord, let us give You the things in our heart that block us off from your grace and Spirit, AMEN 


“Let us put everything out of our lives that keeps us from doing what we should. Let us keep running in the race that God has planned for us.” Hebrews 12:1 


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Helping Others Helps You

   November 15, 2022 0 Likes 216 Views
Look for the helpers… 


Tragic events have hopefully shown us that we are capable of caring for, praying for, and helping others in need. 


It’s sad that it takes enormous tragedy to spotlight this, but this is our culture and socially acceptable. 


The good news is that there are many of us who don’t wait for a tragedy to strike but set out daily to look for the good and ways to plug in to be helpful and supportive. 


A few have shared a timely quote from Mr. Rogers; “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”


It’s easy to focus on the bad in times of trouble, but spiritually speaking, the Lord through His Holy Spirit can help us see the good when we look for the helpers… 


Check your experience…. 


“Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life.” Big Book pg. 63 


Lord, let us look past the hurt and pain and find the helpers and the hope that You bring to every situation, AMEN. 


“Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted and keep a humble attitude.” 1 Peter 3:8 


Have a blessed day Y’all! 


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We GET What We GIVE

   November 14, 2022 0 Likes 325 Views
We get what we give…


It seems to be a common line of thought and an acceptable practice these days to look for the bad and find fault in others as part of the attempt to build ourselves up.


Perhaps you have learned the hard way, like I have, that all this brings us misery, chaos, and trouble.


When I took an honest look at my part in these behaviors years ago, I knew I had to make a change.


Just like the spiritual principle says,


we GET what we GIVE.


I find that when I spend my time building others up and looking for the good in others, the same is returned to me, even more than I deserve!..


Check your experience…


“We cannot be helpful to all people, but at least God will show us how to take a kindly and tolerant view of each and every one.” Big Book pg. 67


Lord, let us look for the good in others and not give into fault finding, AMEN.


“Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13


Have a blessed day Y’all!


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